点进这篇文章的同学相信也有类似的困惑,在这个美图秀秀盛行的时代,翻翻别人的朋友圈,不是美的惊世骇俗,就是帅的一塌糊涂!那么问题来了,像我们这种不P照片星人,在找对象或者找工作时,到底应该跟风P个图呢还是该保持自己的真实模样呢?
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答案是:无论你P还是不P,关键时刻,你得有拿得出手的好照片!
我们在上周针对“照骗”现象做的调查研究中发现:即使见面后发现对方本人和照片落差很大,绝大部分的人还是会愿意给对方一个交流的机会,再决定要不要继续交往。
参与调查的男生中,只有7.87%的人表示,如果发现对方本人和照片差别很大,会在约会开始前就立刻找个借口“逃离现场”;44%的人都会选择把会约完,而且如果两人聊得来,还会继续了解;还有近26%的男生认为本人和照片不一样并不是一个大问题,两人是否合适主要靠交流和相处。
女生调查者中只有6%的人会选择立刻“逃离现场”;63%的人会和对方坐下来完成约会,看聊天的感觉再决定是否继续相处;16.75%的女生认为“外表”不是问题。
在这个“看脸”的时代,决定人与人之间交往的本质仍在于相处和交流。好看的照片更像是一张游乐场内的快速通行证,它不是必须的,但没有会让你耽误更多的时间甚至错失很多尝试的机会。
以下是粉丝们针对“照骗现象”的内心写照:
自己约的会,哭着也要约完。
对方越丑,我跑的越快。
现实当中的感觉最重要。如果找不到感觉,可以婉拒,但也要给对方台阶。
一定是她的相机故障了,我马上现场用我的Canon帮她拍一张美美的照片。
讨厌任何形式的造假。
如果差别很大,还是会完成约会,但不会继续交往。
会继续交流让约会自然结束,但极可能未来不会再继续交往,因为没达到眼缘。
即使差别大,也要看看是否在能接受的范围内,爱美之心人皆有之,想给对方一个好第一印象算不了大错。
查看其细节反应,长相及需要重点修饰掩盖的地方给其带来的自卑,从而分析此人想要什么样的人配,讨厌什么人配,是否需要马上离开在于配不配。
货不对版,诚信问题,马上走人。
既然见面,第一次接触后不联系就行。
人要内心的美。才是美。见了面聊天要看感觉,感觉好了,美不美都无所谓。
出于礼貌会认真完成约会(但会很严肃)。如果觉得不妥约会后尽快告诉对方。
就當是交朋友,真的只是朋友。
完成约会,但不会继续交往。用P图是很不自信的表现,不喜欢。
差别太大 这次见面就以朋友心态面对 逃离现场也太明显了。
要看对方是不是顺眼,如果还可以就先沟通看看。
No matter what. I will show respect, finished the dating.
This person can’t face the reality, lack of confidence and probably will dare risking anything to be fakey. But you should keep your own manners and politely looking a way out.
If they looked significantly different in real life, to be honest, I would try to be friendly and keep a “nice tone”, asking my potential date why He did that? Does He has a legit reason to do this to me? If the reason makes sense for me, I can accept it, then continue to give my date a second chance. BUT, if the reason does not make sense, or if I feel being “cheated” by this, I will say: Sorry, I can’t accept this. Then I will leave afterwards having this conversation with my unsuccessful date!!!
Only 1 date. No big deal.
I would be upfront about them lying to me.
Make a joke about it.
I can always use another friend.
Even though looks aren’t a deal breaker, the fact that they couldn’t be truthful on a picture means that they would probably lie about other stuff. So I’d leave and tell them exactly why I’m leaving.
Unless it was really bad,out of courtesy, I would complete to date.
If they looked significantly different (worse), I would continue the date, but wouldn’t schedule a second. If they looked better, then I would be suspicious (of foul play), but continue to interact normally.
That’s already a big turn off and a big factor to me, showing that the person’s personalty is quite shallow and superficial and cares a lot about their appearance. That’s already not long-term material for me. I would politely mention about the different look to the person from their picture immediately when meeting. But I would not be rude and try to chat and also get to know the person a bit. I may just go for a short term hookup at the very least, hoping there are some other attracting (physical) features. That’s what shallow, fake and superficial people get I suppose.
I would stay and get to know her more. Who knows, may I end up marrying her someday! 🙂
I wouldn’t want to stay at the date.
The real question is : Despite the difference are they attractive enough to me? If the answer is no, then I’d make it clear there won’t be anything beyond friendship here. If the answer is yes, I’d keep going.
Follow through with the date.. You are there anyway. Might as well follow through with it.
I would be careful and watch for “gamers”.
I would confront them for having no integrity. Then I would leave.